Is your child a coddled kid and you don't even know it? Research published in the Journal of Child and Family Studies has found that over-parented children show less autonomy, competence, and ability to relate to others as teens, which can result in depression and decreased overall life satisfaction. The following are the top areas moms and dads can fall into the over-parenting trap, and some helpful hints for how to take a step back.
Phrases such as “helicopter parenting” tend to stress certain parents’ tendencies to over parent their children, even when their kids are perfectly capable of acting on their own.
But, does overparenting have an adverse impact on kids? A study published in Emerging Childhood says, “Helicopter parenting is detrimental to young adults’ well-being.”
So, are you guilty of this? Here are a few signs to watch out for, and tips to help you take a step back:
Your Child Has Few Responsibilities
Do you still help your kid get dressed, carry his bag, or clean up after him at the table? As children get older, take a step back from doing these basic tasks for your kids.
You Give in to All of Your Child’s Demands
Do you replace every personal item that your child loses or breaks? Don’t immediately buy or replace things for her. It’s important to teach her the value of her possessions.
You Control What Your Child Eats
Is your child a picky eater? Instead of only serving him foods you know he’ll eat, expose him to a variety of healthy foods to choose from and let him decide.
You Intervene in Arguments
Do you step in immediately as soon as you see a squabble between your child and a friend? As long as nobody is in danger, wait and let the children resolve it by themselves so they learn to handle their conflicts.
You Praise Your Child Excessively
Excessive praise can prevent your child from accepting failures. Instead of simply praising your child when she falls short of her potential, talk about how she could have done better.
You Micromanage Friendships
Try not to interfere in choosing who your child is friends with. Letting her choose helps build self-awareness and interpersonal skills.
You Over-Schedule Your Child’s Day
Are hobbies and after-school activities leaving your kids with no free time? Listen to your children and let them decide which activities interest them the most.
You Set Strict Routines for Your Child
While a daily schedule can be good, help teach your child time management skills by allowing him to manage his daily schedule.
Instilling independence in your child is essential in helping him grow up to be a responsible adult.
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