I met her today for the first time after a very productive meeting with the principal and counselor. His teacher basically said that she "can't have this behavior in her classroom" and that he's "not only distracting her, but the other kids as well." She had a completely disgusted and unkind look on her face when she said this. She made me feel like a horrible parent. What should I do?
There are also many helpful books and videotapes that can give you ideas for helping your son at home. 1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12 by Thomas W. Phelan, Ph.D. is a terrific book/video package. Sam and Michael Goldstein also have a video to help parents: Why Won't My Child Pay Attention? Two other excellent books are Betty Osman's Learning Disabilities and ADHD: A Family Guide to Living and Learning Together and Harvey C. Parker's Problem Solver Guide for Students with ADHD.