You're in a delicate position. I'm sure you don't want to overstep your boundaries by telling your daughter they should be more concerned about his lack of study skills and motivation to learn. Despite your daughter's reluctance to his seeing a therapist, I think he should be given an opportunity to select a therapist he likes to help him map out a plan for success. This help is not because they are unable to parent him; this is help because they agree that business as usual cannot continue for their son as it applies to school performance. Expect defensiveness, denial and perhaps anger from your grandson and his parents. I hope they can be convinced to give counseling a try so he can build up a trusting relationship with someone who can understand and support him in an area where everyone has come to expect the worst from him. Good luck.
Carleton Kendrick has been in private practice as a family therapist and has worked as a consultant for more than 20 years. He has conducted parenting seminars on topics ranging from how to discipline toddlers to how to stay connected with teenagers. Kendrick has appeared as an expert on national broadcast media such as CBS, Fox Television Network, Cable News Network, CNBC, PBS, and National Public Radio. In addition, he's been quoted in the New York Times, Washington Post, Chicago Tribune, Boston Globe, USA Today, Reader's Digest, BusinessWeek, Good Housekeeping, Woman's Day, and many other publications.
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