The problem is that no matter how many times I try to talk to my dad about dating, he claims he doesn't trust me. He figures that all boys want these days is something bad and that there aren't any good ones left. He figures he was their age once so he knows what they're thinking. There is one boy I would like my daddy to meet, but I don't know how to bring the conversation up. Please tell me what I can do and how I can get him to see I am mature and responsible enough to date.
As a father who raised a daughter and a son and as a therapist who has counseled many teenagers, I would ask your father to focus on the trust and respect that you have earned as opposed to focusing on teenage boys as kids who "all want the same thing." Yes, teenage boys can have romantic and sexual feelings, and so can teenage girls, but not every teenager acts upon those feelings or curiosities. Your dad needs to show you the respect that you have shown yourself in staying true to your values. I don't believe that your father is forbidding you from dating because he doesn't trust you. I believe that he is trying to protect you from boys who had the same ideas about girls that he did when he was a teen. But whether or not you should be allowed to date should not be about your father's hormones when he was your age; it should be about whether or not you should enter the world of dating.
The fact that you would want your dad to meet this boy is very brave on your part. I might suggest that you go out with this boy as part of a small group of kids, as opposed to going out on a date alone with him. That could be your attempt to compromise with your dad. Your father and mother should be proud of the girl they have raised. And your dad should know that his attempts to control you and forbid you from doing natural, healthy things that are part of your growth and development may backfire. But his trusting you to be the responsible, sensible girl that he raised will never backfire. Let me know how things work out.