Don't dismiss her feeling as silly or puppy love. She can feel very strongly about a boy at this stage of her emotional and sexual development and if you talk about her feelings for him in a condescending manner she will probably not want to share anything further with you on this topic. Don't dwell on this event or punish her for writing the note. See it as a bridge to communicating your values and feelings about the healthy place of sex and sexuality in a young person's life. These conversations should be part of her ongoing relationship with you. Changing Bodies, Changing Lives, by Ruth Bell and It's Perfectly Normal, by Robie Harris are two good books that can help you out at this time.
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Carleton Kendrick has been in private practice as a family therapist and has worked as a consultant for more than 20 years. He has conducted parenting seminars on topics ranging from how to discipline toddlers to how to stay connected with teenagers. Kendrick has appeared as an expert on national broadcast media such as CBS, Fox Television Network, Cable News Network, CNBC, PBS, and National Public Radio. In addition, he's been quoted in the New York Times, Washington Post, Chicago Tribune, Boston Globe, USA Today, Reader's Digest, BusinessWeek, Good Housekeeping, Woman's Day, and many other publications.
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