I'm a stay-at-home mom and we pretty much do just that -- stay at home. We do go to the park and my son has made a couple of friends. But he's not very socially interactive, which is my fault. I want him to be involved in sports and to enjoy the programs and activities they have at school, but each day I'm more reluctant to enroll him. Do you have any advice?
These killings make it scarier for kids to attend school and difficult for their parents to send them. Schools, communities, health professionals, and individual families must help each other raise our sons to be non-violent. As we all dedicate ourselves to teach boys that they do not need to be physically aggressive to be men, we cannot cheat our kids out of the intellectual and social opportunities they need for their healthy development. Homeschooling should not be chosen out of fear for our children's lives at school. It should be chosen because we believe it to be the best environment for our kids' overall academic, emotional, and social development.
You have indicated that you may already be preventing your child from having a richer social life. He may also begin to internalize your fears and become unable to feel comfortable away from home. That would be most unfortunate. I am asking you to allow your desires for your children's healthy social, academic, and emotional development to override your present fears about their safety in public school. Work in any way you can to raise your sons differently. I am asking a lot from you but I think your kids deserve to live with less -- not more -- fear. Their fear can be lessened when they see our courage and our commitment to an appreciation of diversity and non-violence.