Your daughter is 13. She fully comprehends her talent level as compared to others her age and older. It appears she doesn't care as much as you do about getting "to the next level". Telling her she must work harder and that you know she can do more will only cause her anxiety and disappointment that you don't approve of her (she's not good enough for you). Although you protest that you never pushed her to play the game.

I think you are pushing her to play better. You both need to question why this so troubles you. I think you have too much invested in her sports success. Let her enjoy the sport for as long as she can. If that means she gets cut from a school team, there are always other recreational teams she can play on.

Please take the pressure off her. Let the natural consequences of how she treats this part of her life evolve. There are lessons to be learned if we let our kids learn them, without blame or nagging. I'm very sensitive about this parent-child area because I've seen far too many kids of all ages suffer in silence because they feel they have let their parents down by not measuring up to their parent's hopes. Thanks for listening.

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