popular topics in stepfamilies

  • Family Life
    Stepparenting
    Stepparenting: Slow and Steady Wins the Race
    Stepparenting: Slow and Steady Wins the Race Mom Alert! Children are quite proficient relationship saboteurs when they want to be. All the more reason to take it slow as you build a relationship with your stepchildren. If you are in a situation ...
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    Holiday Logistics for Stepfamilies
    Holiday Logistics for Stepfamilies So who's gonna spend the holiday where? Sometimes holiday plans are predetermined by custody agreements, but sometimes there's flexibility built in. If you've got some options, discuss them with the kids and tr...
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    Bringing a New Baby into a Stepfamily
    Bringing a New Baby into a Stepfamily Hoorah! You've decided, or you're pregnant, or the adoption papers have been filed. What now? Who tells the ex(es)? How are you going to tell the kids? And how are your kids and stepkids going to react? Who ...
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    Stepfamilies
    Keep the Peace: Planning the Stepfamily's Holidays
    Keep the Peace: Planning the Stepfamily's Holidays Deck the halls, spin the dreidel, roast the turkey, light the candles; it's holiday time! You've been through the wedding and you thought the worst was over! Now it's Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanza...
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    Celebrating Your Victories
    Celebrating Your Victories It's vital to mark milestones, victories, and accomplishments, both large and small. My friend Ailsa is a professional at this, but I'm not. I tend to take any achievements in stride, barely noticing them, as though ju...
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    The Extended Family
    The Extended Family Step-Speak To extend means both to enlarge and to reach out. An extended family is both larger and more encompassing of other people. The shape of the American family is changing for the better, becoming more inclusive, more ...
  • Family Life
    Adopting Stepchildren
    Stepparent Adoption
    Stepparent Adoption Step-Speak One's biochild is one's birth child. Adoption is a legal procedure in which an adult becomes the legal parent of someone who is not his or her biochild. Relative adoption is adoption by somebody related to the chil...
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    Stepfamily Struggles
    Top Stepmother Complaints
    Top Stepmother Complaints It helps to know that you're not alone, and it helps to know what biofathers are beefing about, too. Here, then (drum roll, Johnny), are some of the top complaints of stepmothers and their partners, in no particular num...
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    Adopting Stepchildren
    Adoption for Stepfamilies
    Adoption for Stepfamilies Adoption is one area that's easier to navigate for stepfamilies than it is for non-stepfamilies. (We found an easier area! Hurrah!) Adoption after a parent has died is simplest. It can get confusing—not to mention leg...
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    Stepfamilies
    Save Our Stepfamily!
    Save Our Stepfamily! Assessing the situation is the hardest part. Once you've made the decision to get some help for your family, you'll find that there are lots of resources available. Therapy is a tool; it's a way to learn, take care of yourse...
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    Stepfamilies
    When the Kids Are Jealous
    When the Kids Are Jealous Kids are often jealous of their parent's friends, dates, and lovers. It's important for them to see that their parent has friends. If a child is expressing jealousy, take a walk in his shoes. Is he only with his biopare...
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    Stepfamilies
    Stepfamily Problems
    Stepfamily Problems As we've learned, problems leak. It's rare that only one person in a stepfamily is troubled or sad. People affect each other. Then there are all the interdynamics of living together…. Problems in Your Marriage With all the ...
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    Stepfamilies
    Stepchildren with Problems
    Stepchildren with Problems A stepchild with problems creates problems for the entire family. High-stress behavior never happens in a vacuum; even one member of the family “losing it” is one too many, and this affects the stepfamily as a whol...
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    Weddings, Graduations, and Other Special Events for Stepfamilies
    Weddings, Graduations, and Other Special Events for Stepfamilies They're the times of celebration and rejoicing: family weddings, graduations, your partner's parents' 50th wedding anniversary. But complications also loom. Who'll host the graduat...
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    Adopting Stepchildren
    Medical Consent for Your Stepchild
    Medical Consent for Your Stepchild Because you have no official legal status, the medical community may not allow you to authorize medical treatment for your stepchild. And because, legally, stepparents have no authority, care providers have deve...
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    Stepfamilies
    Cross-Cultural Stepfamilies
    Cross-Cultural Stepfamilies Whenever you have a relationship in a cross-cultural situation, you have to communicate effectively. Intercultural communication consultant William Sonnenschein believes that effective cross-cultural communication req...
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    The Rights of Grandparents
    The Rights of Grandparents Grandparents don't have a lot of legal rights, though they do have a few. In all states, the courts can grant visitation rights to grandparents (Grands, your partner's parents, or Other Grands, your partner's ex's pare...
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    Stepfamilies: Trouble in Grandparent Land
    Stepfamilies: Trouble in Grandparent Land Sometimes the going isn't so blissful, the wrinkled faces aren't as crinkled with smile lines as they are with frowns, and the kids are little monsters. Bonded—Against You Grandparents and grandchildre...