Dr. Ana Aznar
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Parenting expert Dr. Ana offers guidance to a mother concerned about her 17-year-old daughter's increasing alcohol use and how to approach the situation.
When to Seek Addiction Intervention for Teenagers?
Question: “My 17-year-old has been drinking alcohol more and more, and I'm worried it's becoming a dependency. At what stage should I look into addiction intervention for teenagers? She doesn't live with me and lives with her friends after they dropped out of school, and they enable this behavior.”
Dr. Ana’s Expert Answer
It is often the case that as parents of teenagers, we feel helpless when we see they are taking the wrong path. You mention that your daughter does not live with you, so I am not sure how your relationship is.
Open Communication with Your Teenager
If you get on well, chat with her to find out her views about alcohol. It is not about lecturing her but about asking her opinions about alcohol, learn how much and when she drinks, and her friends’ attitude towards alcohol.
Involving Trusted Adults
If you two are not close, perhaps there is another trusted adult in her life who can check on her and gently raise the issue.
Consult School Staff
It may also be a good idea for you to talk to her teachers to check if they are noticing any change in her behavior or her grades. The school counselor could also be a good person to talk to.
Maintain a Strong Relationship
Try to stay in your daughter’s life. Remember that teenagers who have a warm and open relationship with their caregivers are less likely to engage in risky behaviors, such as drinking alcohol. At the same time, our children learn more from what we do than from what we say, so be a good role model for her regarding this issue.
Consider Environmental Influences
The context we live in also influences our behavior, so if your daughter’s flatmates are drinking heavily, it is more likely that she will drink. Changing her living arrangements could also be a good idea.
Seek Professional Help for Alcohol Issues
Addressing alcohol-related issues is complex because there are many different factors that underpin it. We have a wonderful therapist specialized in alcohol addiction that I could put you in touch with if you are interested.
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I wish you and your daughter all the very best.
Love,
Ana
How Do I Talk To My Teenager About Alcohol?
Dr. Ana advises engaging in open, non-judgmental conversations. Instead of lecturing, ask for their opinions on alcohol, how much and when they drink, and their friends' attitudes. This approach fosters trust and understanding, making them more likely to share. Focus on listening rather than immediate correction.
When Should You Intervene In Teen Alcohol Use?
Intervention may be necessary if a teenager's alcohol use becomes frequent, impacts their behavior or grades, or if friends are enabling harmful patterns. Dr. Ana suggests first speaking with your teen or a trusted adult. If issues persist or escalate, consulting a specialized therapist for addiction is a crucial next step to address the complexity of the situation.
How Does Environment Impact A Teenager's Drinking?
A teenager's living situation and peer group significantly influence their behavior. Dr. Ana highlights that if flatmates drink heavily, a teenager is more likely to follow suit. Considering changes in living arrangements and being a positive role model can help mitigate negative influences and support healthier choices.
What Role Does School Play In Addressing Teen Alcohol Problems?
School staff, such as teachers and counselors, can provide valuable insights into changes in a teenager's behavior or academic performance. Dr. Ana suggests reaching out to them as they might notice concerning patterns. A school counselor can also be a supportive resource for the teenager or offer guidance to parents.
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