Determining the Best Way to Approach Your Daughter

Determining the Best Way to Approach Your Daughter

Moms need to be up front and approach their daughters if they are concerned about a new newfound friendship group or boyfriend. The trick is in how you say it. One slip of the tongue and these kids won't listen to a thing you have to say.

To keep the lines of communication open, follow these tips from the educator:

• Listen without being judgmental.
• Maybe share something from your past that may be similar.
• Get your daughter to talk about her feelings, especially if she feels she doesn't fit in.
• Use a neutral subject like a movie to open the door to a conversation, and then, ask her how she thinks the girl in the film felt and ask if that ever happened in her school.
• Make her see that she can be understood.
• Tell her, "I think you are making the wrong choice here but I will love and support you no matter what."

If the last point is particularly pertinent to your situation, a lesson in values may be in order.