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Ask Dr. Ana: Is My Stepson’s Development at Risk from Exposure to Porn?

Parenting expert Dr. Ana answers concerns about a stepson hearing about porn from his brother, offering advice on healthy conversations about sex, porn, and relationships.

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Updated: July 3, 2025
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Updated: July 3, 2025

Question:

I’m worried for my estranged stepson because his big brother is watching porn and tells him about it. Is this going to harm his development?

Dr. Ana’s Answer:

I understand that you are worried about this. Sadly, among boys the average age for the first porn viewing is 12 years old. This means that we need to be talking about it with our children from an early age.  

We don’t exactly know what the consequences are for children to watch porn from such young ages but what it is clear is that we need to talk to them about sex, porn, and relationships in a way that will help them develop into healthy adults with healthy relationships.  

In this case, your stepson is getting information about it from his big brother and most likely it is not the best information, so it is even more important that his parents discuss the topic with him. I don’t know how old your stepson is, but his parents could tell him to leave the room whenever his brother talks about porn and ask him not to do it.

I don’t know what the situation with the big brother is like, but it would be fantastic if his parents could ask him not to discuss porn with his younger brother. He needs to understand that it is not appropriate, and that he is doing a disservice to his little brother.  

I hope this helps! If you want more support, please get in touch with me. 

Love to you and your family,  

Ana 

Dr Ana Aznar 

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