Dr. Ana Aznar
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Why Does My Baby Cry When I Put Her Down?
“Help—my baby cries every time I put her down. She's 6 months old and has been doing this since 1 month old.”
Dr. Ana’s Expert Answer
Babies are born with their own temperament. This means that some babies are easier than others. Some babies have easy temperaments: they don’t cry much, feed well, sleep well, and tend to be content. Other babies have more difficult temperaments: they cry a lot, do not sleep and feed well, and are more irritable. So, this could be a factor explaining why she likes to be held.
Why Babies Prefer Being Held
It is very possible that she simply likes to be close to you because next to you, she is more relaxed and calmer. Also, keep in mind that babies find it difficult to self-soothe and find it difficult to put themselves back to sleep after being held to being in their cot.
Coping Strategies for Exhausted Parents
I know very well that having a baby who only wants to be held is exhausting. So if possible, ask other family members or friends to give you a hand with her. Maybe the baby won’t go with them, but they can give you a hand around the house, so you have less on your plate. Also, if you are feeling overwhelmed, try not to be alone with the baby a lot. Go for walks with a friend, join a local mum and baby group, or simply sit with the baby at a café. I know that this is tough for you, and I feel for you.
I hope this information helps.
Love,
Ana
Why Does My Baby Want to Be Held All the Time?
It's very common for babies, especially in their first few months, to want to be held constantly. This can be due to their individual temperament, a need for closeness and security, or difficulty self-soothing. Being held makes them feel relaxed and calm.
How Do I Get My Baby to Stop Crying When I Put Her Down?
Helping a baby who cries when put down involves understanding their need for security. It's not about "stopping" the crying but rather helping them feel secure. This can be a gradual process. Remember that babies often find it hard to transition from being held to being in their cot.
Is It Normal for a Baby to Only Want to Be Held?
Yes, it is very normal for a baby to only want to be held. Some babies have more difficult temperaments and are more irritable, while others simply find comfort and calm in being close to a caregiver.
What Should I Do if I Feel Overwhelmed by My Baby?
If you're feeling exhausted or overwhelmed, it's important to seek support. Ask family or friends for help, even if it's with household chores. Try to get out of the house by going for walks, joining a local parent group, or visiting a café to avoid feeling isolated.
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