My wife and I have two sons — a 3-year-old and an 8-month-old. I’ve always joked with her that she needed me twice during her pregnancy: in the very beginning and then to get us to the hospital when it was Go Time.
You can't drop the ball when it comes to making your pregnant partner feel sexy.
One of those drives was in the middle of a 23-inch snowstorm - *obligatory self-pat on back*, - but I digress.
The rest of the heavy lifting was on her; figuratively and literally.
But I was of some use in those middle months. One of the key things I did to support her was simply to let her know how sexy she still was.
From the time we became a couple, and long before we went diamond shopping, I’ve always made it a point to let her know through my words and actions just how beautiful and sexy she is to me. My wife is by no means insecure, but, expressing those feelings as her body began to change was more important than ever.
And guys, with Valentine’s Day around the corner, you can’t drop the ball when it comes to making your pregnant partner feel sexy. Here are some ways to accomplish exactly that.
1. Three Little Words
Day-to-day life can feel like you’re on the hamster wheel some days. That feeling only intensifies when children enter the picture. So it can be easy for couples to neglect each other unintentionally.
Stem that tide by telling your partner daily that you love her. It’s easy to do and takes no time at all. Do it when you first get up in the morning and before heading to bed at night. Randomly call or text during the day for no other reason than that. Slip a hand-written note into her lunch when she’s not looking. It provides a sweet reminder that you’re thinking of her.
2. Tub Time
Bath time isn’t just for your kids. Sure, you need to get them washed and off to bed – which, by the way, YOU will need to shoulder if your partner is pregnant with your second child. But you and your partner can have some tubby time, too. Fill the tub for a warm (but not too warm), relaxing soak together. Gently wash your partner’s back and help dry her when the bath is over.
3. Date Night
Whether you and your partner are expecting your first child or there’s a kid or two at home, arrange for date night. Book a reservation for a romantic dinner for two, perhaps at a restaurant with special meaning for you both.
4. Couple’s Massage
Another romantic option is booking a couple’s massage. Massage therapy is a wonderful way to relieve stress, pain and muscle tension according to The Mayo Clinic. Not to mention that it feels wonderful and is extremely relaxing.
Your partner, though, will probably need a prenatal massage. That will benefit her in many ways, including relieving weight-related stress, improving blood flow and maintaining good posture notes Massage Magazine. Given the popularity of massage around Valentine’s Day, it’s probably a good idea to make the appointment well in advance.
Can’t afford to splurge for a couple’s massage? Put your own hands to work. Your partner certainly won’t object to you offering to rub her feet or massage her lower back. And if her ankles are swelling, help her relieve the tension by moving those fluids out.
5. Clothes Shopping
Remember that your wife’s body is changing, so there’s a good chance she could become a bit self-conscious about the way her clothes fit and the need for maternity clothes. So, why not go clothes shopping with her? Your enthusiastic nod of approval can go a long way in making her feel good about the way she looks as she adapts to her new, albeit temporary, body.
6. Tell Her She’s Beautiful
We all like and need to hear compliments on occasion. And despite the fact that she’s always beautiful to you, your partner might have some days when she feels anything but. As easy as it is to tell her you love her, remind her that she’s beautiful, too, through your words and actions.
Life for you and your wife is about to change, even if there’s already a child at home. So as Valentine’s Day approaches, reminding your wife why you love her so much might be the best way to show her just how sexy she is.