Choose one or two areas that are most important to you. For example, do you wish he would plan a date night out without you having to do all the work of making reservations and finding a sitter? Have a conversation about areas you both think you can improve in, and make a conscious effort to try. Your marriage will thank you.
With full-time jobs, kids at home, and endless day-to-day tasks, it's easy to fall into a comfortable (and let's face it — boring) routine with your spouse. But adding a little zest to your love life is easy. Try one (or more!) of these simple steps to put the romance back in your marriage.
Remember the thrill you got the first time your spouse held your hand? Affection is an easy way to feel closer to your partner, no matter how small the gesture seems. Hold hands while walking the dog, cuddle on the couch while watching TV, or play footsie under the table while eating dinner--all of these are an easy way to let your partner know you love him.
Be Romantic at Home
Romantic isn't usually a word used to describe a simple meal in, but creating a date-night atmosphere in your own home isn't hard to do. Plan a night at home to have a dinner for two (try a new recipe!) once the kids are asleep. Dim the lights, light some candles, get dressed up, and enjoy the romantic atmosphere in the comfort of your own home.
Let's be honest--sex is essential to staying connected to your partner, but we don't always make time for it. Keep the spark alive by making sex a priority. No matter how busy your schedule is, we guarantee you can find the time. And while you're at it, be bold and try something new in the bedroom. Changing up your usual routine is a sure-fire way to reignite the spark.
Do Something Just Because
Don't wait for a special occasion to cook your husband his favorite meal or to buy your wife a gift--do it "just because." Write your spouse a love letter and tuck it in his briefcase, or pick up her favorite flowers on your way home from work one day. Little gestures can go a long way in showing how much you care.
Pretend You Just Met
Treat your spouse the way you did when you first met. Go to the movies, try new restaurants, go bowling--in other words, make an effort to plan dates and have fun like you used to. Pick one night every month, so the good intentions turn into reality. Just because you're married doesn't mean you can't still have fun together like the good old days.
Feel Good About Yourself
It's hard to feel attractive around others when you don't feel comfortable in your own skin. Eating healthy and exercising will not only keep you looking great, you'll feel great too. When you feel good about yourself, your confidence will shine and your partner will notice.
Get Dressed Up
We know--your spouse didn't fall in love with you on your looks alone, and sometimes your schedule just doesn't allow time to primp and groom. But it is nice to look extra nice for your partner once in a while. Do your hair, put some makeup on, put on your favorite outfit, and remind your better half of what a good-looking pair you make.
Compliment Your Spouse
Who doesn't love getting a compliment? Think of all the good qualities your partner has, and make an effort to compliment her at least once a day. It's a nice way to let her know you appreciate her, and it will make her think about the things she likes about you, too.
Do you know exactly what turns you on, and what makes you feel special? Everyone is unique, so spend a little time thinking about it, and then let your partner know. You'll both learn something new about each other, which can be exciting in itself, and in turn, your love life will take off as well.
And we're not talking about your usual day-to-day communication about schedules, diaper duty, and meal times. Communicate about what you want from your partner in your romantic relationship.