Hanging out at the mall has become a popular way for young adolescents to socialize with their friends. Put yourself in your daughter's shoes when she says, "There's no place in this town for kids to hang out except at each others' houses." Is there any place in your area you're comfortable with, where your daughter could hang out with friends without an adult chaperone? Offer your home as a place where she and her friends could spend time together on these nights and tell her you will stay out of their way when they're together. See if these other parents might do the same. You might also go to this mall on a Friday night and spend some time observing the social life of the adolescents who hang out there. Then you and your daughter can both talk about something real, not imagined. Let her make her arguments about why she believes that it's okay for her to hang out at the mall on Friday nights. Show her respect and empathy after she presents her case. Then present your case and opinions.After following these suggestions, I hope you'll feel more comfortable with whatever decision you make.
Daughter Wants to Hang Out at the Mall
Carleton Kendrick has been in private practice as a family therapist and has worked as a consultant for more than 20 years. He has conducted parenting seminars on topics ranging from how to discipline toddlers to how to stay connected with teenagers. Kendrick has appeared as an expert on national broadcast media such as CBS, Fox Television Network, Cable News Network, CNBC, PBS, and National Public Radio. In addition, he's been quoted in the New York Times, Washington Post, Chicago Tribune, Boston Globe, USA Today, Reader's Digest, BusinessWeek, Good Housekeeping, Woman's Day, and many other publications.
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