Your mom might think that she is helping you by telling you that you are fat. She might be worried about your becoming unhealthy and overweight. But if those are her worries, she sure is going about helping you in the worst way possible, isn't she? I am sure that her unkind words to you about being fat came from her own fears and worries about her body. Is she overweight? Is she thin now, after losing a lot of weight? Was she an overweight child who was told she was fat by her family? Do you think that she has always placed too much importance on how good she looks? Maybe you could ask these questions and others, in confidence, to a trusted family member or friend. The answers might help you to understand why she has treated you so unkindly.
I would like you to write your mom a letter. Pour out your heart in it and tell her how much you hurt inside because of what she says about you being fat. Ask her why she would continue to say such things if she knows that saying them makes you feel ashamed, very sad and lonely. Talk to any family members that you trust about how you feel as well as your school counselor.
You should never have to hear such hurtful words from your own family. They need to know that they must respect your feelings and that they are hurting you deeply. Please write to me after you write your letter to your mom. Let's hope that your letter will help your mom see the light. I know that it takes courage to do the things that I asked but I know that you are brave enough to do them. I'll keep a good thought for you. Thanks for writing.