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Mother and Daughter: Talking Your Way Through Tenuous Times

Read how improved communication skills can help mothers and daughters get through rough times.


Here is a word of warning from a mother of four children. She advises not to talk in a way that will cause divisiveness among family members. This can interrupt the harmony and goodwill among the entire family unit. She is particularly careful not to discuss her beefs about one daughter with another, nor will she allow herself to carry tales from one to the other.

Communication skills can get mother and daughter through tenuous times if they are creative in their thinking. For instance, if you keep annoying your mother or daughter by saying something the same old way and keep getting the same old response, ask her how you might express things better. You might also want to ask her what you say that pleases her the most. Be sure to interject a few of these into your conversations.

Once you have the vocabulary and the skills of communicating down, you will be able to…

  • Express your hopes for your relationship.
  • Jointly develop goals for your relationship.
  • Identify what is important to both of you.
  • Discuss your met and unmet expectations.
  • Find solutions to conflicts by discovering and responding to common ground.