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Sometimes children's actions require consequences. If you decide to punish your child, make sure your method is safe and age-appropriate.

Choose Appropriate Consequences for Misbehavior

Choose Appropriate Consequences for MisbehaviorThis part is not for the frail at heart. In fact, choosing appropriate consequences is very difficult for many parents (I know it often baffles me). I'll give you a few approaches here—things to think about, plans to make. read more

Correcting Misbehavior with Time-Out

Correcting Misbehavior with Time-Out Judy was 22 but looked much older. She had four children, the oldest six years old. She was five months pregnant and had no time for herself. There was fatigue in her voice. Her four-year-old son, Randy, was driving her crazy. She was not able to manage his tantrums and demands. With tears of desperation, she told how she spent most of her time: "All I do is yell. He never does anything I ask. He just runs around the house making a mess. I don't have time for my other children because of him. read more

Daughter Won't Listen

Our expert is concerned that a parent's attempts to correct a "listening" problem appear to be forms of punishment. read more

Does Spanking Prepare Kids for the Real World?

Neither children nor adults should be made to suffer shame for the everyday mistakes they make in life. read more

Effective Punishment

Effective PunishmentPunishment tells a child what not to do, but it doesn't tell him what to do instead. Let's be honest. You've tried every form of punishment you can think of to get things to change and, so far, how well has it worked? Punishment doesn't teach a better, more appropriate alternative. It must be paired with information and feedback about what to do, not just what not to do. Don't get me wrong. Some kids seem to get the message with just one or two redirections (my euphemism for punishment). But you're not reading this book because you're raising that child. read more

Eight-Year-Old Won't Sleep by Himself

An expert explains why punishing a child for refusing to sleep in his own bedroom will not change his behavior. read more

Is Spanking Appropriate Punishment?

Spanking is not a logical consequence for bad grades. There are other types of consequences that are much more appropriate. read more

Mother Wants to Discipline Son with Belt

Threatening to hit your six-year-old with a belt if he continues to bring home bad reports for school is not an appropriate discipline technique. read more

My Husband Spanks Our Son

There is no "good age to start" spanking a child. read more

Playing with Matches

When a child starts playing with matches, it's time to have a calm, serious talk about the rules and consequences of this behavior. read more

Provide Related, Respectful, and Reasonable Consequences for Misbehavior

Provide Related, Respectful, and Reasonable Consequences for Misbehavior The 11th element of the Twelve Disciplinary Elements is to provide consequences to the misbehavior that are related, respectful, reasonable, and rewarding—what I call the 4-R's. read more

Punishing in Public

Children will take advantage if they perceive that you're uncomfortable punishing them in front of others. read more

Punishment for School Misbehavior?

Teachers should not ask parents to punish children for school misbehavior. read more

Punishment for Stealing

Taking more and more privileges away from a child will only serve to make him unduly sad and resentful. read more

Seven Key Parenting Pitfalls: Traps to Avoid

Seven Key Parenting Pitfalls: Traps to Avoid Having unrealistic expectations Relying on punishment alone Sermonizing and dramatizing Punishing without warning Extending punishment too long Failing to give clear directions Establishing too many rulesPitfall 1: Having Unrealistic Expectations read more

Should Toddlers Ever Be Punished?

Should Toddlers Ever Be Punished? Most actions that a toddler takes that might warrant punishment in an older child are things that she cannot help doing. By nature, toddlers are curious about things, explore them, and experiment with them. So before you punish your one-year-old, stop to consider: Does she really deserve punishment and was it truly your child's fault? read more

Six Dubious Discipline Techniques

Six Dubious Discipline TechniquesHere are six disciplinary techniques that fall into the category “dubious.” Dubious techniques may have their place, with certain kids, certain families, in certain situations. I present them to you with a lot of caveats. Read closely! (You'll find a few here that are often considered essential and effective.) The dubious six disciplinary techniques are: read more

Sons Are Breaking Family Rules

When family rules are made, there should also be consequences set up for breaking them, which the whole family should agree on. read more

Spanking Leads to Aggression Later in Kids

Spanking Leads to Aggression Later in KidsCould spanking turn your child into a bully? Recent research shows it might and gives parents another reason to think again before turning to spanking for discipline. Occasional spanking of a 3-year-old child – even just a few times a month – may lead to aggressive behavior, or bullying, at age 5, according to a study published in the May 2010 issue of Pediatrics. read more

Stepparenting: How to Discipline

Stepparenting: How to DisciplineStepparenting: Agreeing on Values read more

The Spanking Debate

The Spanking Debate Do you believe in spanking as a form of discipline? Does it build character and teach respect? Or does it teach kids that violence is the way to solve problems? See what parents are saying about spanking, then tell us what you think. SPANKING HAS ITS PLACE read more

Time-Out Chart

Print out and use this chart to keep a record of your child's time-outs. read more

Time-Outs for Tantrums

Time-Outs for TantrumsTime-out has been a common form of discipline among parents with young and school-age kids for a long time. However, there is plenty of confusion about when and how to use it most effectively. Part of the problem is in failing to adapt this occasionally useful technique to the age of the child. Punishment, such as time-out, always has the potential to increase fear, especially in younger kids, and it saps parents' energy. Rewards, on the other hand, are usually pleasant and create energy. read more

To Spank or Not to Spank

Punishing your children by spanking them may only reinforce their negative attitudes. read more

To Spank or Not to Spank?

To Spank or Not to Spank? What exactly do you teach your child when you spank him or hit him for an act of misbehavior? Does it teach your child not to hit under any circumstances? Or does it teach not to hit anyone unless he's much bigger than them and can therefore get away with it? How contradictory is it for you to say that your child cannot hit or hurt anyone else—but that you can hurt him whenever you think it's appropriate? Will your toddler pick up a moral lesson here? read more

Unfair Punishment by Teacher

A parent believes that her child was treated unfairly by his teacher after he was "involved" in an incident at school. read more

Washing a Child's Mouth Out with Soap

Our expert says that washing a child's mouth out with soap is not discipline; it's cruelty. read more

When a Child Refuses to Go to Time-Out

When a Child Refuses to Go to Time-OutThe way you manage a child who refuses to go to time-out depends on the age and size of your child. For children up to five or six, it is acceptable to pick them up and put them in time-out. Be careful not to hurt your child or yourself. If your child will not stay in time-out, hold the door closed from the outside. Some parents have to do this at first. read more

When Your Teen is Smoking

Don't punish your child for smoking. read more