That child's mother has now hired a lawyer and my daughter is a wreck. She cries all the time. I have pulled her out of school pending a meeting with our school superintendent, involved staff, and parents. If this doesn't get us anywhere, I don't know what my next step will be. I can't educate her at home because I have to work and she is way too smart for me. This has turned my family upside down, and I am physically ill because of it. I would love some advice.
I know this may not be of much solace for you or your daughter, but remember this other parent has to prove harassment on the part of your child. If this would goes to court -- and I cannot believe it will even get out of the lawyer's office -- it might be a golden opportunity for you and your daughter to present your case.
As for your daughter being out of school, I encourage you to get her back in school or into an alternative program if your district has one. Perhaps her present school could seek an arrangement for her to attend another school in the district so that she can be safe.
This is not an easy situation. I know you will continue to support and encourage your daughter to continue doing her best wherever she is.