Your ex-daughter-in-law should be concerned, regardless of whether her son is presently exhibiting troubling behavior. Of course, it's possible for kids to "do okay" after being the victims of parental abuse. But doing "okay" in these cases cannot be measured simply by watching the easily observable behavior of these kids. They are not and will not do "okay" in the deepest parts of their minds, hearts, and souls. All children who suffer such abuse deserve experienced professional help, along with the firm commitment to help them heal by their other family members. I hope that your ex-daughter-in-law can be persuaded to get your grandson the therapy that he definitely needs, but blaming her should not be part of this attempt to persuade her to help her little boy.
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