In this particular case, let your mother "spoil" your kids for a day or two. Reframe the experience as one where your kids get to be indulged by your loving mother as opposed to seeing it as a violation and disregard of your family's rules. Short of feeding them pecan pie round-the- clock and encouraging them to steal the pears from her neighbor's tree, I can't think of anything that your mother could do that could not be embraced and enjoyed by your kids and you as "Thanksgiving at Grandma's." By relaxing your standards, you'll be giving your children and your mom a great gift. Happy Holidays!
Grandma Lets Kids Misbehave
Toddler and Teenager Expert Advice from Carleton Kendrick, Ed.M., LCSW