She is now in tenth grade, is still intensely uncomfortable in classes, and is ruining her chances of better grades by not passing in work or passing it in late and by "tuning out" in class. She is begging to be homeschooled, but her psychiatrist is against it (so am I). I have taken away her Internet privileges to help limit distractions, but I don't know what else to do.
I hope her counselor has experience in working with the gifted. Gifted kids in trouble can be very skilled in convincing us how their problem is caused by others. In truth, your daughter must learn to deal with -- or ignore -- her detractors and go forward, focusing on her strengths and interests.
Taking away too many privileges will depress her even more. Why not offer a certain amount of Internet time in exchange for completed homework or extra study time? The focus right now must be on intensive counseling for her. She will not respond effectively if she is too depressed. I am referring you to the national organization SENG, Supporting Emotional Needs of the Gifted. They have helpful information for kids in your daughter's situation. Good luck.