As for your child, I would simply explain that the words he is using are ugly and hurtful to others. As for defining them, I would do that only if he asks and in a very limited way. Usually just telling kids the words are hurtful and that you won't accept his using them is enough. If he continues after that, then follow your usual consequences for inappropriate behavior.
When a Child Uses Profanity
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