I would not be surprised if your husband does not share your views on how to relate to and support your kids. There is no candy-coated way I can say this to you -- if he will not go with you to a good family therapist and work on the problems that the two of you have that are affecting your children, then you need to think seriously about at least separating from him. You are your children's advocate and you must protect their hearts and minds at all costs, even if it means an uncomfortable separation. I don't know why your husband is behaving so shamefully; he needs help, and so does your marriage if you want to make it a rewarding one. Meanwhile, this little girl has been caught in the crossfire and needs to have no more of this degrading talk. I understand my suggestions may upset you, but in all good conscience I had to offer this advice to protect your children and to encourage you to make some decisions that have to be made. I admire you greatly for wanting to do right by your kids, even though it brings trouble to you.
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Carleton Kendrick has been in private practice as a family therapist and has worked as a consultant for more than 20 years. He has conducted parenting seminars on topics ranging from how to discipline toddlers to how to stay connected with teenagers. Kendrick has appeared as an expert on national broadcast media such as CBS, Fox Television Network, Cable News Network, CNBC, PBS, and National Public Radio. In addition, he's been quoted in the New York Times, Washington Post, Chicago Tribune, Boston Globe, USA Today, Reader's Digest, BusinessWeek, Good Housekeeping, Woman's Day, and many other publications.
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