What subject(s) does this advice apply to?
Blending families
Easing emotional trauma

Describe the situation or problem.
Someone new has come into your life. You enjoy each other and want to spend more time together. But first, you have to introduce your new partner to your kids.

What advice can you offer?
Take it slow. Many times children want their parents to get back together again and may resent a new person coming into their lives. Gradually introduce your new partner into their lives. Reassure your children of their importance to you and keep in touch with what they are thinking and feeling about your new relationship. Sometimes children may feel rejected or threatened; they need to understand that their feelings are important but at the same time need to be polite and willing to get to know this new person in your life.

Recognize that both your children and your new partner may feel threatened or jealous of the other. These feelings are not unusual and should be acknowledged and addressed. This is a new situation for all of you and there can be many conflicting interests and feelings involved. Trying to keep an open mind and encouraging everyone involved to make a "good faith effort" may be enough to work through the initial awkwardness and uncertainty.

This advice is most appropriate for parents with children in...
Elementary School
Middle School
High School & Beyond