Description of discipline technique:
I don't know why these new parents keep hitting their head against the wall. They don't need to read a book to teach them when the child is in danger, why do they have to learn discipline when it comes so naturally? I really am amazed at this generation.

Yes, if you are of the trailer park, gang, TV cops, Jerry Springer, mentality this probably isn't something that you should try at home. You are the parents we are worried about and should get a good "time-out" book.

For the rest of us, I'll tell (I don't believe I need to 'teach' this) you how you can raise a child and discipline them only 3 times. That's right, discipline them only 3 times in their entire life. You can forget about learning how to be a prison guard and standing over junior in his timeout chair. And you can forget about "your own" child embarrassing you and talking down to you. You can forget about looking like a fool in a department store while junior throws his little tantrum on the floor and you pretend to the other adults you know just how to handle this by just watching with a red face.

We had two daughters and a son. They are all grown now. We gave a total of 7 spankings. No we didn't grab them up by their arm, almost pulling it out of the socket, and wailing away as fast as we can until they started crying. We do think that is hitting and not spanking. Nope, I'm talking about a 'real' spanking. I'm talking about a spanking that probably only 5% of parents give.

On those very few occasions it was necessary we would tell the child why she or he was going to be spanked and send the child to our bedroom to think about what they had done. Both of us were always there for every spanking in the privacy of our bedroom. We would discuss his/her behavior and then it was over the knee until they were bawling with real tears. It wasn't a game and it was intended to be a memorable experience.

Afterwards there was a lot loving and a long discussion of how this could have been avoided and how they were going to change. We used nothing more than our hand and it was never on the bare and usually on pajama bottoms.

That's all it took. There wasn't the constant fighting and nagging in our house like you see in others. There was always respect from them as children and as adults. And they show and expect respect from others today. All parents are proud but I can say enough of how I respect my children for what they have become.

We have a new grandson now that has more hair than his grandfather and he's just a year old.

Appropriate age group(s):
5 through 12

Other suggestions or comments:
But no, not all was well in paradise... when they were toddlers I was a "hand slapper." But if you are a spanker and do it right you'll never have to do it past the age of twelve.