It sounds like you need an advocate to help you navigate the special education system to get the help you need for your child. I would call the main office of Children and Adults with Attention Deficit Disorders (CHADD) at 1-800-233-4050 to see if there is a branch in your community to guide you through this process. You can also try the Coordinated Campaign for Learning Disabilities at 1-888-GR8-MIND for other resources in your community to give you some hands-on help.
Eligibility for Special Education
LD and ADD/ADHD Expert Advice from Eileen S. Marzola, Ed.D.