What kind of acceptable reply can I give to the administrator who insists that my gifted son is smart enough to get over his LD/ADD disabilities and to snap out of it? I'm sick of the ignorance about his particular disabilities and yet I don't have the proper response for this advice. I'm also told that I should not be going to bat for him as he is old enough to know what he needs to do. Yet the teachers do not modify or follow his IEP. I'm saddened that, year after year, I must fight this ignorance at the expense of my son's education. Please help.
It sounds like you need the support of an advocate to help you to get the modifications/supports mandated for your son by law. There are many advocacy groups that can help you navigate the system. To find out what groups are within your community, call the Coordinated Campaign for Learning Disabilities
at 1-888-GR8-MIND, the Learning Disabilities Association of America
at 1-888-300-6710 or Children and Adults with Attention Deficit Disorders
If your school district is being negligent about following your son's IEP, you may be able to get financial support for meeting his needs privately. An excellent resource for more information is Lawrence M. Siegel's book, The Complete IEP Guide: How to Advocate for your Special Ed Child.