Perhaps you can find a happy medium. I understand that the program for the gifted is full, but are there some activities, projects, or services in which she might become involved for at least part of the time, either on a daily or weekly basis? Might the teacher of the gifted program be able to assist the regular classroom teacher in creating opportunities for your daughter that are commensurate with her needs and abilities? What about the children who are ahead of her on the waiting list? Might the principal be willing to assign a teacher or a parent to work with them as a cluster group if the regular teacher cannot accommodate them on her own? This kind of multiple "menu" of tiered services is available in many gifted programs, so the situation might not be as bleak as it appears. And remember, you can do a lot to enrich your daughter's education at home. Good luck!
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