What Would You Do If...? - FamilyEducation

What Would You Do If...?

Setting family rules with teens isn't easy. Take this quiz and compare your answers to the experts' suggestions!

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Setting family rules with teens isn't easy. Take this quiz and compare your answers to the experts' suggestions!

1. Several children, including your child, have all broken family rules by staying out too late. According to the family rules you and your child have already established, she will be grounded for a week. Your child complains, "But that's not fair. None of the other kids were punished at all." What will you do?

  • Stick to your rules and ground your child for a week.
  • Reduce the consequences or let your child off the hook, so she's treated like the rest of the group.

2. Your children have always obeyed family rules. Suddenly, the oldest (aged 12) becomes erratic in behavior and several important family rules are broken. What will you do?

  • Focus on your family rules and the consequences your child will face.
  • Talk with your child to find out why the rules have been broken.

3. One of your children tells you that two fifth grade friends have tried marijuana. Your child asks you not to say anything. "I'm the only one who knows and they'll hate me if they find out I told you." What will you do?

  • Keep your child's confidence and don't say anything.
  • Call the parents to report their child's drug use.

4. You keep wine and beer in your refrigerator. Over a period of two or three weeks, you become quite certain that some of it is disappearing and you suspect one of your children took it. What will you do?

  • Remove all of the wine and beer from the refrigerator so there is no longer any temptation or opportunity for your child to take it.
  • Immediately discuss your suspicions directly with your child.

5. You tend to bring work pressures home. When you do, the consequences you impose on your children for broken rules can become inconsistent, and are sometimes harsher and more frequent than usual. You can see that your children don't know what to expect. What will you do?

  • Make it your personal goal not to impose consequences on your children when you are feeling stressed or under pressure.
  • Talk about the situation with the children and emphasize the steps you're taking to correct it.

1. Several children, including your child, have all broken family rules by staying out too late. According to the family rules you and your child have already established, she will be grounded for a week. Your child complains, "But that's not fair. None of the other kids were punished at all." What will you do?
Stick to your rules and ground your child for a week.

2. Your children have always obeyed family rules. Suddenly, the oldest (aged 12) becomes erratic in behavior and several important family rules are broken. What will you do?
Talk with your child to find out why the rules have been broken.

3. One of your children tells you that two fifth grade friends have tried marijuana. Your child asks you not to say anything. "I'm the only one who knows and they'll hate me if they find out I told you." What will you do?
Keep your child's confidence and don't say anything.

4. You keep wine and beer in your refrigerator. Over a period of two or three weeks, you become quite certain that some of it is disappearing and you suspect one of your children took it. What will you do?
Immediately discuss your suspicions directly with your child.

5. You tend to bring work pressures home. When you do, the consequences you impose on your children for broken rules can become inconsistent, and are sometimes harsher and more frequent than usual. You can see that your children don't know what to expect. What will you do?
Make it your personal goal not to impose consequences on your children when you are feeling stressed or under pressure.

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