Are You Fostering Independence in Your Preschooler?

Take this quiz to find out if you're helping or hindering your child's journey toward self-sufficiency.

Quiz

Take this quiz to find out if you're helping or hindering your child's journey toward self-sufficiency.

1. When your child attempts to zipper his jacket, you:

  • Zipper it halfway up and let him do the rest on his own.
  • Hurriedly zipper it. You don't have the time to sit and wait for him to figure it out.
  • Let him try it a couple of times, but end up zipping it for him.

2. Your child wishes to stand on the chair next to you and help you prepare your famous pizza, which includes cutting the peppers and mushrooms. You:

  • Welcome his participation but find an alternative activity that is suitable for him, such as spreading the cheese on the dough.
  • Let him stand on the chair and watch, but don't let him help.
  • Allow him to attempt cutting the veggies. After all, what can go wrong? You're standing right there!

3. Your child is at the park. She is having fun sliding down the slide. Afterwards, she hesitantly walks over to the children who are swinging on the swings. You:

  • Watch and wait to see if she wants to give it a try.
  • Plop her up on the swing and tell her she won't know if she likes it unless she gives it a try.
  • Gently encourage her to try the swings, but ultimately let her decide on her own.

4. Your child wants to prepare his own bowl of cereal.

  • You let him try it, but you keep a hand protectively over the milk carton just in case it's too heavy for him.
  • You let him try it. Who cares if he spills the milk?
  • You tell him no.

5. Before running off to daycare, your child tries putting her shoes on the right feet. Unfortunately, she fails at her attempt. You:

  • Applaud her for making a valiant effort, and gently explain how to tell which shoes goes in which foot.
  • Impatiently switch shoes and usher her into the car.
  • Let her keep trying until she gets it right.

6. On the first day of daycare, your child is scared and doesn't want you to leave. You:

  • Give her words of encouragement and an extra hug before leaving.
  • Help her gradually become comfortable in the situation. Once she is playing with the other children, you quietly leave.
  • Just drop her off and leave in a hurry. She'll never become independent unless you force her to, right?

7. Your child wants to pick out his own outfit. You:

  • Let him, then convince him to change before you leave the house to run errands.
  • Let him wear whatever he wants. You love seeing what creative outfits he chooses!
  • Tell him no. You don't want your child to be seen looking like a clown. What will other parents think of you?

8. Your child is learning how to clean up his toys at preschool. At home, you:

  • Have him follow the same routine, so your child feels responsible for his toys and how they are handled.
  • Clean up after him all the time. After all, this isn't school.
  • Try to follow the same routine as school, but sometimes you are in a hurry and don't have time to.

9. You think your child should be potty trained at this stage in the game, but he doesn't seem to want to learn. You:

  • Try to force him. Sometimes you need tough love, right?
  • Encourage him daily to use the potty. You try hard not to become frustrated, but sometimes it's hard not to!
  • Stay patient and don't force him. It's a big step in your child's life! You know he'll learn when he's ready.

10. Your child has had a security blanket since birth, and takes it everywhere with her. You're worried she'll never part with it. You:

  • Begin "accidentally" forgetting it when you go places, then try your hardest to distract her.
  • Abruptly take it away. She'll learn to live without it.
  • Begin suggesting activities to do without the blanket to gently wean her away from it.

1. When your child attempts to zipper his jacket, you:
Let him try it a couple of times, but end up zipping it for him.

2. Your child wishes to stand on the chair next to you and help you prepare your famous pizza, which includes cutting the peppers and mushrooms. You:
Allow him to attempt cutting the veggies. After all, what can go wrong? You're standing right there!

3. Your child is at the park. She is having fun sliding down the slide. Afterwards, she hesitantly walks over to the children who are swinging on the swings. You:
Gently encourage her to try the swings, but ultimately let her decide on her own.

4. Your child wants to prepare his own bowl of cereal.
You tell him no.

5. Before running off to daycare, your child tries putting her shoes on the right feet. Unfortunately, she fails at her attempt. You:
Let her keep trying until she gets it right.

6. On the first day of daycare, your child is scared and doesn't want you to leave. You:
Just drop her off and leave in a hurry. She'll never become independent unless you force her to, right?

7. Your child wants to pick out his own outfit. You:
Tell him no. You don't want your child to be seen looking like a clown. What will other parents think of you?

8. Your child is learning how to clean up his toys at preschool. At home, you:
Try to follow the same routine as school, but sometimes you are in a hurry and don't have time to.

9. You think your child should be potty trained at this stage in the game, but he doesn't seem to want to learn. You:
Stay patient and don't force him. It's a big step in your child's life! You know he'll learn when he's ready.

10. Your child has had a security blanket since birth, and takes it everywhere with her. You're worried she'll never part with it. You:
Begin suggesting activities to do without the blanket to gently wean her away from it.

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