Teaching Your Child About Tipping

Teaching Your Child About Tipping

When you take early elementary kids to Denny's, they may be confused about why you've left some money on the table after you've eaten. They may even be tempted to pick it up, thinking you've merely forgotten it. After all, they don't have the vaguest idea that the money is a tip and that you've purposely left it on the table.

Tipping is a part of the way things work—it's also good manners. But it's up to you to explain what tipping is and to teach your child when and how to tip.

When Your Child Should Tip

Tipping started as a way of rewarding good service. Tips were viewed as gifts to servants. Today, tips are a part of the way we pay for things. Different countries have different customs on tipping (in China, for example, it's an insult to tip). Here, however, tips are expected in certain situations. It's helpful for your child to know when it's appropriate to tip so that as he gets older and goes out in the world without you, he'll know what to do.

Your child might run into some of these more common places that call for tipping:

• Restaurants. Tip the waiter or waitress on the basis of the bill.
• Taxis. Tip the driver on the basis of the fare.
• Pizza or other food delivery. Tip the driver on the basis of the cost of the food.

Watch Your Step

It's not necessary to tip a waiter if a gratuity has already been added to the bill automatically (the menu should specify that there's a fixed gratuity). However, even if this is so, a tip is still good manners if the service was exceptional.

• Coat check attendant. No tip is required if there's a charge for checking a coat. Otherwise, the tip is usually a fixed amount (see the following section).
• Parking garage and valet parking. Tipping here works similar to tipping for the coat check attendant: If there's a charge for valet parking, no tipping is required. Otherwise, follow the instructions that follow.

How Much to Tip?

Knowing when to tip is only half the battle. Your child also needs to know how much to tip and how to figure that amount. Here's a little guide to what's usually expected in the way of tips. This serves as only a guideline, though: Great service can always be rewarded with a larger tip, while poor service may not be worth any tip at all.