When we got there, he was yelling for his grandpa. I showed him the grave and explained as simply as I could that Grampa wasn't with us anymore, that he had died. I talked about the coffin and how grandpa's body was in the ground. I also emphasized that we had pictures to remember grandpa by and that we could visit the cemetary anytime. I could tell he was thinking pretty hard about this and then he pointed and asked me if this was where grandpa's head was. I said yes and showed him where his feet were and that his body was there, as well. When we left, he said he missed his grandpa. Was this an okay way to explain things?
You corrected yourself by giving him his trip to the gravesite, where he was allowed to hear the truth about his grandpa's death, where his body was, and that he was never coming back. Your son may experience further periods of anger, sadness, anxiety, and fear as part of his moving through this grief. He may regress and have physical complaints such as stomachaches, headaches, and nightmares. Your son will benefit from being comforted physically as well as being played with one on one. Never deflect questions that he has about his grandpa or about death and dying. Your children's librarian will be able to recommend many books that help kids deal with the death of a loved one. I am sure that you will help keep your dad's memory alive for your son.