We have to understand the origin of our children's fears, empathize with them, but help them not to become fearful of everyday and novel situations. A sense of control and an action plan are necessary to provide anxious kids with the knowledge they can do something about their fears. Two excellent books that will help you come to more of an understanding of your daughter's anxieties and fears and assist you in helping her deal with them are: Triumph Over Fear, by Jerilyn Ross and Keys to Parenting Your Anxious Child, by Katharina Manassis. If you feel these fears are compromising your daughter's day-to-day abilities to function at an optimal level of health and comfort, a consultation with a talented child/family therapist could be most useful.
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