Should I take custody of my daughter after 8 years - FamilyEducation
Should I take custody of my daughter after 8 years
01/16/2013 at 01:03 AM

Hello. My name is Marie and I have an 8 year old daughter. I'm not what you would call mother material. I'm not on drugs or anything , I just love to travel and have fun and I'm not very responsible. So when my daughters dad and I split up . we both agreed it would be better if she lived with him. I saw her every few months or so. I felt bad that I wasn't there but I guess it kind of worked for everyone.

Sadly a few months ago , my ex passed away and obviously it's left my daughter devestated.Right now she is living with her grandparents , which is where she used to spend the afternoon when her father would work. I don't know if I should take her to live with me or not. I want to try and be a better mom to her but part of me is scared that I'm going to screw it up because my own mother made my life a living hell and I don't want to do the same thing. And also I'm not sure if I'm the best thing for her or not. She knows me and loves it when I'm around but at the same time she's comfortable with her granddparents but they are quite elderly. I don't know what to do ? I'd really appreciate some advice.

Have a look at the thread called healthy eating fruit and vegetables and you may find some useful advice

Thank you so much for the advice...

My pleasure

Try to make the food a bit attractive as the child has a nature to have food that looks good and delicious. Try to focus on sweet foods like strawberries, mandarin oranges, cherries, tomatoes, sweet peas, and corn. Add chopped fruits to gelatine salads, they might like it.

There's a bunch of different smoothie receipes that you can make. A lot of times the fruit will cover up the vegetable taste. Here's an example: Great smoothie starter: Strawberries and Cream Smoothie 1 cup frozen strawberries 1 cup frozen mixed berries (the more berries you add, the more purple it looks) 1 banana 1 cup low-fat milk 1 cup V8 fusion fruit juice 1/4 cup fresh baby spinach

I recently came across a line of pasta called Ronzoni Garden Delight. The pasta is enriched with Carrot, Tomato and Spinach. Half a serving of vegetables in each 2 oz. portion. I believe I have one of the pickiest 6 year olds out there, and he loves this pasta. I even call it "Healthy Noodles."

I recently discovered a great, HEALTHY snack called World Peas that my kids love. They come in 7 flavors, but my kids' favorites are ranch and bbq. The peas are very crunchy and low in calories, fat, and sodium. Give them a try! I bought mine at my local Whole Foods.

Let your kids come to the market with you and pick out there fav. veggies. You can also try chopping the veggies up very small and put it in a quesadilla or sandwich. They will never tell.

There are so many recipes to make your kid to eat veggies. One of the simplest ways to get your child interested in eating vegetables is to eat yours. Make your kid to involve in making the is recipes Sneak veggies in purees. Pureed vegetables can slide easily under a toddler’s taste radar if you add them into mainstay meals.

Try to put the vegetable to a blender. I agree with jolly try to make a food that very attractive.

Consider growing vegetables. If short on space, grow them in a planter/pot. Talk to someone at a hardware store garden center for advice. My son is fascinated with food that grows in gardens. He'll eat tomatoes like they're apples. I'm hesitant about special recipes that sneak veggies in because kids still might not eat it. Continually offer plain cooked/raw veggies. Make veggies part of mealtime when making them for yourself and give your child one or two pieces each time and don't say anything. They might not eat them at first, but if you're making veggies anyway for you, you didn't waste your time trying to do something special. I did this because I didn't want to "play games." My 3-yr-old once disliked veggies and now he eats them. I never thought I'd hear him saying, "More broccoli."