Husband and I disagree on daycare switch. Advise
04/12/2013 at 10:15 AM

I need advise. I want to change my two children's daycare, but my husband doesn't. I have a 2.5 year old and 5 month old. The oldest was at a center that we loved, but when the second one came along we switched due to finances. Now they both go to a home daycare. The home daycare is ok- they are safe, loved and seem happy. However I know the television is on often, the oldest doesn't bring home any crafts/work/items she has done, and the youngest has a huge bald spot on the back of her head. I know that's normal for babies, but this seems waayyyy too big. I am just not warm and fuzzy inside about this daycare. I am concerned they are not being stimulated enough. I found another daycare they can get into and it appears to be much more stimulating, but my husband says no, and here is why- he would have to drop them off, as he does now, but it will add 45 minutes of driving for him in the morning. I know that isn't the best thing in the morning, but it's a small sacrifice to make for our kids' well-being!!! I start work at 7 am and have an hour commute. He starts at 8 am and has an 8 minute commute. The daycare the kids currently go to is a mile down the road from his shop. The one I want to switch to is about 15 miles the opposite direction. So he'd have to leave our house by 7 to have the girls there by 7:15 ish, get out of there by about 7:20 ish and be to work within 15-20 minutes. I would pick them up on my way home, which is about 20 minutes out of my way too, but I feel it's worth it.

I don't know what to do. I want my kids to attend a better daycare and our options are limited. What should I do? I am very disappointed with my husband. I have tried talking to him about this multiple times in various ways, but he says no. AND HE ADMITS he is being selfish- he said it's too inconvenient for him.