Trying to Connect with My Mother - FamilyEducation
Trying to Connect with My Mother
10/11/2010 at 11:34 AM

I'm fifteen years old, and my mother and I haven't gotten along for the last three years. Our relationship has definately gotten worse since my father died last December. I can understand how my mom can be stressed out about the hospital bills, being left to do the farming and having to raise my brother and I alone. But she's not giving anyone a break. My mother found out that I had sex with my boyfriend of nine months -- I know, i'm fifteen and too young for this. I know the health risks and such. But I am in love with this boy. He's 18 now, and I really can't imagine life without him. He has been the only thing keeping me strong through all of my struggles and issues. I am not too young to be in love with my boyfriend. -- In the last few months I have tried everything I can to avoid fights and to help around the house. I've pulled my grades up to all As except on B+, but that doesnt even please her. It just seems like everything I do is wrong. I try to have casual, normal conversations with her and she blocks me out. I just want this to change so I don't lose her when I go off to college or move out.

-Does anyone have any advice to how I can help connect with her?

Keep trying and be patient with her. You both have suffered a great loss. Having a physical relationship with your boyfriend at 15 is WAY too much too soon and you should seriously consider the possible repercussionos of doing so. You are too young to be taking the risk if becoming a mother yourself as such a young age. You and your mother do not need to have this additional stress at this already very stressful time.