I am having a difficult time developing a relationship to my 21 yr. old daughter. As I have read through these boards, I can see that I'm not alone. I relate to many posts that I've read, however, there are more people asking for advice then there are concrete steps to resolve some of the issues. The one bit of advice offered over again was to write a letter apologizing to our daughters in order to open the lines of communication. I have not tried that so I will definately do that but I wanted to open this discussion so that as some of us work through our relationship issues we may be able to share our feelings, advice and pitfalls to avoid with each other.
My specific problem is that my daughter has shut me out of her life, she has pent up anymosity towards me, unforgiveness, a sense of entitlement and that she does not take any responsibility for her part in our issues.