I'm having trouble getting my 6-year-old stepson to listen to his biological mother. I have no problems getting him to do what I say, but he never listens to his mother. The only time he does what she tells him, is when I have to make him. He also refuses to listen to women and only listens to men.
I have been in his life for the last 3 years, and at first there was a huge problem with discipline. His mother was in an abusive relationship with his biological father for the first three years of his life, and constantly had her authority undermined by the "Boss" as her ex called himself.
His father has very little to do with him, other than picking him up every other weekend and then putting him on his mom. On weekends his mother will not watch him, he calls and tells us that his mom will not watch him this weekend and he wants to play World of Warcraft, so he cannot pick him up.
After we get him back to the house and my wife will tell him to get ready for dinner, but he will refuse to do so and say that my daddy told me I didn't have to listen to you. I have to step in to get him to do what he is supposed to do. He has even told me on occasions that he also does not have to listen to me, because daddy told him not to. The reason being that I caused his momma and daddy to break up. This is not the only thing that has happened, some of the things we have heard my stepson say "is my daddy says he doesn't love me because I live with my momma and not him, and the only way he will love me is when I move with him, or my daddy told me to say that my momma is bad and I don't want to live with her.
What can we do to stop his behavior? Does she need to get him away from the biological father, or should we take him to counseling? I'm afraid he is turning into his father and if we don't do anything soon it will be too late. Any advice?