I have two children aged 11 (girl) & 13 (boy) and from 20 Feb, my partners children - 2 girls aged 10 & 12 will be coming to live with us permanently. My partners daughters are upset about this as they had settled where they are and the move here takes them 80 miles away. However, it is necessary as it is unsafe for them to say with mum and her bf.
I'm worried about how this is going to work for us. My partner works very long hours so most of the time it will be up to me to care for them, make sure they do homework, feed them, look after their practical and emotional needs.
Right now, this feels like a really daunting task.
My son is, I guess, a typical teen - currently growing his hair, grunting a lot and tomenting his younger sister (there is a fair bit of sibling rivalry even just with the two of them). My daughter is fairl easy going but tends to try to wind her brother up too - I guess fairly typical kids.
My eldest step-daughter is currently being treated for depression - under a psychiatrist and has been taking 20mg fluoxetine/day (for last 2.5 years). I sincerely hope that she will be able to come off this when things have settled down. She seems to have coped pretty well with the shock and upset that she is moving here.
My youngest step-daughter is fairly quiet and withdrawn. I worry most about how she will cope with being away from mum as she is very attached to her still.
Anyway - I'm worried about so many things. How am I going to cope? How will my own children cope (they know the situation and why stepkids are moving here and they get on ok though son, being the only boy, is a bit of an outsider).
I don't think humans were designed to have 4 nearly teenagers all at once - they are currently 10, 11, 12 & 13!
Should I become an organised mum and do rota's and schedules and things?!?!
I don't know how my relationship with my bf will survive. Until now, I have been in charge of my kids, and when his kids were here at the weekends, he was in charge of them. That is all about to change!
I'm frankly terrified about this though I did agree to do it. Social services are involved and it really isn't safe for them to stay with mum and her bf as he poses a risk to young girls.
Any words of encouragement would be greatly appreciated.