05/29/2008 at 07:46 AM

I need advice.   My 10 yr old boy has really long hair. I have gotten hints from him that he doesn't want to cut it because his stepmom cuts hair. She cut his hair 1 yr. ago (she just go her license.) and it was  not a very good haircut - we had to get it fixed.  My son finally agreed to cut his hair and donate it, but said he doesn't want to go back to his dad's house after he cuts it.  (I think he is tired of people thinking he's a girl - it's past his shoulders).  He wanted me to smooth it over with his dad before he got it cut.  His dad won't agree to anybody but the stepmom cutting his hair.  I asked him for us to agree on somewhere else for him to go to.  I had to tell my son that his dad doesn't want anyone else cutting his hair, so now he says he'll just leave it long because it's easier.    I really don't know how to deal with this. My son is so sweet and sensitive and I don't want to put him in the middle.  I can't even talk to his dad any more,   ANY ADVICE - I'm thinking of counseling for my son (and me)



There is no reason to talk with his dad. Take the kid for a haircut. You don't have to gain permission every time you get your son a haircut. If the dad asks why you did not use the step-mom, then tell him she is not good at cutting hair. Your son is 10 years old for goodness sake, let him make a decision on who cuts his hair. It's less torture than being teased for looking like a girl. Give him some power over his own life man!!!


GO, tamz!!!!!!


If you can make a decision to enter in to counseling without dad's permission, why do you need his permission to get a haircut for your son?


Are you kidding?

Take the kid for a haircut. Jeez.


Just go get his hair cut. You are his mother. You don't need anyone's permission to do this. I really don't know why your ex and you are making such a big deal of this. I think it is just the tip of the iceberg. Your problems are far deeper than this. Get to the bottom of the problems and you won't have to get involved in petty squabbles about such a trivial matter.