I have a wonderful, bright, funny, talented stepson. He is 6. My husband has 100% physical custody and 50% legal custody. We also have two sons that are 3 and 8 months. So three boys in the house. My stepson sees his mother 3 weekends out of the month. That is the arrangement with the courts. However, she doesn't seem to have her head on straight. She is an exotic dancer, which I don't necessarily have a problem with. It's the drugs and the alcohol that comes along with the job. Last weekend she picked him up and then dropped him off at her friend's house who he didn't know and he spent the night there, without her. What is worse is that she told him not to tell us where he slept. He came home and told us anyway because the kid doesn't lie. THAT WAS SCARY and made my husband and I so angry. She is uncooperative to say the least. He loves her as he should, that's his mom. But he has such an unstable relationship with her. Last year, she took off for 8 months and nobody knew where she was. My stepson suffered greatly from that. He is so torn and I don't know how to console him. How does our family deal with her irresponsability? It affects us all. Any advice?