Overwhelmed with my step son while trying to spend time with my baby.
05/06/2011 at 07:44 AM

4 years ago we got primary placement of my step son, then 5 years old. He is a wonderful kid with the best of intentions. But he is an attention seeker, loud and obnoxious at times. Before, when it was just him,I could deal with it. But now, I have my own baby who is just over a year. I have fought with my feelings about my step son since we brought our son home from the hospital. I hate to use the word 'resent' because it seems so harsh. I am just torn between the time and energy my step son wants and the time I want to spend with my own baby who is growing and changing so fast. The worst part is that I pushed for placement of my stepson because the living situation with his mom was not good and I am a huge believer in children having stable, consistent homes. And now, I feel sooooo guilty about how I am feeling and I just don't know what to do. I know it's not real common that Dad gets placement over mom, we're so fortunate for that...but I am so stressed out and overwhelmed. Just looking for advise on dealing with it...any one elses experience with something like this. My husband tries to help by taking the older son out to the garage or keeping him busy so I can have some alone time with the little one....and it does help some. But it doesn't change how I am feeling and also the fact that his kid loves me as much if not more than his bio mom. I want to find a way to deal my feelings and the situation that works for everyone so I don't have to feel guilty or get resentful about the situation...