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06/11/2013 at 05:59 AM

Just wondered if I could get some advice on sleeping arrangements when my partners children come to stay.

Im in the process of relocating 340miles to live permanently with my partner. We have just bought our first house together and before that we managed a long distance relationship for 2 years before we got together. I'm moving to be near his home town as his work is the dominant factor and he wanted to be near his children, subsequently my children are no longer as close to their father he is now 200miles away but they have a fantastic relationship with their dad and everything is very amicable. I have 2 children from my first marriage a son aged 9 and a daughter aged 6 and I obviously want them to feel as happy and secure as possible after moving away from their friends and family and they both have a bedroom each in their new house.

My partner also has a son aged 10 and a daughter aged 8 so the age ranges and sex are similar which makes matters easier moving forward. The children have only met a couple of times...primarily because of their mothers wishes for us not to meet but also the geographics of us being far apart until now. The children on the occasional times they have met all get on brilliantly and we couldn't ask for anything more.

My partner wants his children to have a permanent bed in my children's rooms for the times they sleepover (approximately 4 nights a month). I suggested an occasional trundle bed to pull out every other weekend for when they come but he insists that he wants proper beds up permanently for his children to know they have a proper bed at dad,s! Along with this he wants them to have their own clothes at the house for when they stay.??

Just wondered anyone's thoughts on this? My children because of their age are very accommodating and happy to share their rooms and I want his children to feel part of our life as its important for both of us.
What arrangements are working out there?

do it there your kids to

It may seem a little over the top to get proper beds for 4 nights a month but I think it is more a symbolic thing. He wants them to feel they have a proper place with him and they are not just making do when they come over.