MY HUSBAND TREATS OUR SONS AND HIS DAUGHTER DIFFERENT ITS RUINING OUR MARRIAGE
06/06/2010 at 20:33 PM

HELLO MY NAME IS RHONDA AND I HAVE A HUGE PROBLEM AND DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO...ANY ADVICE WOULD GREATLY APPRECIATED CAUSE IM AT A LOSE AND AM READY TO TAKE THE KIDS AND LEAVE.

WELL ME AND MY HUSBAND HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR A LITTLE OVER A YEAR WHILE I WAS PREGNANT WITH OUR FIRST SON HE LEFT ME WHEN I WAS 2 MONTHS PREGNANT WITH OUR SON I WAS DEVASTATED I HAD TO GO TO A SHELTER AND LIVE CAUSE HE LEFT ME WITH NOTHING THAN SHORTLY AFTER MY MOM PASSED AWAY OF CANCER THAN I FOUND OUT THAT HIS CURRENT GIRL FRIEND WAS PREGNANT IT WAS A HARD TIME FOR ME HE DENIED MY SON.....SEEN HIM ONCE IN THE HOSPITAL AND NEVER CAME BACK STATED HE WANTED A PATERNITY TEST IT CRUSHED ME 6 MONTHS AFTER MY SON WAS BORN HIS CURRENT GIRLFRIEND HAD THEIR DAUGHTER HE WAS THERE FOR THEM BUT NOT FOR US.....WELL AYEAR AND A HALF OF FIGHTING AND ARGUING HE AGREED TO A PATERNITY TEST SURE ENOUGH 99.99.....

HE BARELY SEEN HIM THOUGH WELL TO GET TO THE POINT HIS GIRLFRIEND STARTED USING DRUGS AND THEY FOUGHT OFTEN THEY SPLIT UP AND THEIR DAUGHTER WAS SHORTLY TAKEN BY THE STATE BECAUSE OF HER WAYS WITH ALL THE PARTYING AND DRUG USE.....

WE GOT BACK TOGETHER AND THINGS WAS GOING WELL I HAD MY FAMILY AND THOUGHT THINGS COULD BE WORKED OUT I WENT TO PARENTING CLASSES AND VISITATION WITH HIS DAUGHTER WHEN I WAS NOT AT LIBERTY TO DO SO BUT WANTED TO SUPPORT HIM ...HER MOTHER DID NO CLASSES DIDNT APPEAR FOR COURT DIDNT CARE.....

WE GOT GRANTED CUSTODY NOW I HAVE 2 2 YR OLDS WHO ARE USED TO BEING THE ONLY CHILDREN IT WAS HARD....BUT THE HARDEST THING WAS THAT I NOTICED THAT HE TREATED THE TWO DIFFERENT....WE OFTEN ARGUED BECAUSE HE SAID THAT I WASNT FAIR AND THAT I CHOSE SIDES WITH MY SON WHEN I TRIED HARD NOT TO BE LIKE THAT...HE ONCE STATED THAT HE HAD A STRONGER RELATIONSHIP WITH HER BECAUSE HE HAS BEEN THERE SINCE SHE WAS A BABY AND THAT HER MOM WOULD LEAVE THEM ALONE SO HE HAD TO RAISE HER HIM=SELF

NOW BOTH THE KIDS ARE 4 AND WE HAVE A 8 MONTH OLD SON THINGS WAS GOING GREAT HER MOM GOT HER ACT CLEAN AND STARTED BEING APART OF HER LIFE SO THAT GAVE US TIME TOGETHER W/ JUST THE BOYS AND EVEN FRIENDS WOULD NOTICE THE MOOD OF THE HOUSE WAS MUCH MORE RELAXED AND I MYSELF FELT LIKE I DIDNT HAVE TO WALK ON EGG SHELLS CAUSE IF SHE CRIED NO MATTER WHAT EVEN SOMETHING AS SIMPLE AS ASKING HER TO SIT DOWN SHE CRIES IM IN TROUBLE....I FEEL AS IF SHES THE ADULT AND I AM THE CHILD IN HIS EYES I SAY SOMETHING SHE DONT LIKE SHE RUNS TO DADDY AND IM IN TROUBLE....

SHES ALOUD TO HIT MY SON BUT IF HE HITS HER HES IN TROUBLE....ONE NIGHT MY SON WANTED TO LAY W/ THEM AND WATCH A MOVIE HE TOLD HIM TO GO IN THE ROOM W/ ME MY SON CAME IN CRYING MY DADDY DONT LOVE ME ONLY SISSY...

NOW HER MOTHERS BACK ON DRUGS AND WE HAVE HER PERM AGAIN AND ITS WORSE NOW MORE THAN EVER I HAVE MADE IT A POINT TO TELL HIM IF SHES DOING SOMETHING WRONG SO HE CAN CORRECT IT SO IT DONT START ARGUMENTS...AND STILL HE SWEARS IM MEAN TO HER EVEN IF I DONT SAY ANY THING TO HER...

SHE CRIES CAUSE SHE DONT WANT TO GET IN THE BATH BAM IM GETTING YELLD AT AND CALLED HORRIBLE NAMES....JUST ANYTHING THAN HE THREATENS TO TAKE MY SONS GAME OR TARGETS OUR SON CAUSE HE THINKS IM BEING MEAN....SO MY SON GETS PUNISHED FOR NOTHING....I HATE IT...

HE BABIES HER MORE THAN OUR 8 MONTH OLD...HE OFTEN THREATENS TO KICK US OUT W/ NO WHERE TO GO AND SAYS HE WONT CHOSE ME OVER HIS DAUGHTER BUT IM NOT ASKING THAT AT ALL....

I FEEL LIKE ME AND MY CHILDREN ARE PUNISHED BECAUSE OF HIS DAUGHTER LIVING IN OUR HOME CAUSE HE CHOSE TO GET ANOTHER WOMEN PREGNANT AND SHE TURNED OUT TO BE A DRUG ADDICT.....

I THINK HE FEELS RESENTMENT BECAUSE SHE CANT HAVE HER REAL MOM CAUSE SHES STRUNG OUT SO HE FEELS LIKE HE HAS TO BABY HER AND OWES IT TO HER....

ITS KILLING MY FAMILY AND MY MARRIAGE I DONT KNOW HOW MUCH MORE I CAN TAKE...

HE ALLOWS A 4 YR OLD TO RUN THE HOUSE AND OFTEN TELLS HER DONT WORRY BOUT HER U DONT HAVE TO LISTEN TO HER AND SHE CONSTANTLY SEES HIM YELLING AT ME SO SHE KNOWS THAT SHE CAN PLAY HIM AND DOES IT WELL....