My Husband Hates my little boy
03/24/2011 at 15:57 PM

I have been with my partner now for 2 years and have been married for nearly one year. When we met eachother my son was 6 months old and didnt have any contact with his biological father (through his own doing). My husband used to get on well with him but sometimes told me he found it hard when he was naughty or what i would say being a typical young child. It just seems the older hes getting the more my husband hates him. He doesnt realy look like me and because his father had ADHD which also ran through the male side of his family my husband seems to pick out anything and say my son has ADHD. He sometimes hides upstairs to get away and when its bad he makes it very clear he hates him and sometimes jokes about putting him up for adoption. I wouldnt never be able to do anything like that as hes my baby and love him but often remind my husband that he wanted to marry me and he knew i had a son and didnt inform me of any of these feelings at the time. I feel very confused i would never let my son come to harm and always jump to his defence when its needed but i love my husband and he does treat me very well and my son when hes good or behaving. Hes never hurt him or anything like that but he can be very strict, we do try and sit down and make the rules together and i do believe in being alittle strict as i want him to be a good boy and do well in school when it comes to it. Alot of people say how polite he is and hes a very bright boy. I understand it can be very hard taking on someone elses child but Hate is a very strong word but he realy does hate him. I just dont know how to get him to see my son differently, hes only young hes going to be nuaghty from time to time thats what children do and moan but my husband cannot stand it and the only time we ever argue is because of him.And i worry that oneday soon my son will pick up on this and this will upset me and him greatly. I left my home and old life to move away with him and his work, i dont want to go back but we are struggling very bad at this time. He also said the other day he cant see us having children because hes worried that i wouldnt love it the same and id keep bringing up my past experience (he hates me talking about anything to do with my past)
Can anyone suggest anything