My fincee's 1 year old daughter!
01/06/2011 at 06:23 AM

I am having some thoughts on whats going on in my life with my fiancee's daughter, she is only 1 year old but the mother get her taken away and the state gave his daughter to the mothers parents since they werent married, and we are trying to get her and I dont even know who we would talk about how I'm not her mother, I'm just her mom. I feel like if she knows she will treat me different and tell me she not going to do something because I'm not her mother. I would like to wait until she is maybe early teens to tell her if we get her with in the next year like we hope. The mother signed over her rights so if my fiancee gets her I can adopt and then she will be my daughter just not by birth. and I'm scared what she will think of me in the years to come... I dont even know what to do I'm just as lost as most of you

Develop your career. Save up some money. Find someone who has a good career and some money saved. Develop a relationship that is founded on something other than sex and/or children.

The best thing you can do for this man's little girl is to convince him to put her first, and that means his money, his time, and his attention are hers, and hers alone.


Does not sound like he is on the same page as you are. Take mayamay's excellent advice.


If you are determined to do the best for your fiance's daughter then getting pregnant yourself would be a big mistake. You both need to concentrate on giving this little girl the best start in life but I have to say that you don't sound ready or mature enough for that yet. Sorry to be so blunt but it sounds like her life is already in so much turmoil that you will have to be very careful. I know she is only a year old but if she doesn't have the right attachment to a parent or carer then everything could go badly wrong. I urge you to concentrate on her welfare and forget about any plans to get pregnant at the moment.