I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for 6 months. He has full custody of a 15 year old daughter and 7 year old son. I have a 7 year old son and 5 year old daughter.
We have not yet introduced the kids, but I have been with him and his kids on most weekends. We all get along so great. His daughter is cool and seems to like me and told her dad she likes me and we even text back and forth. His little boy is so adorable. We talk on the phone and he gives me hugs when we see each other.
My bf lives and breathes his kids' sports. His daughter plays softball 9 months out of the year and his son plays little league baseball and football to which my bf is the coach of both.
He tells me he and his ex get along great now, but then she will pull some stupid stunt like calling at the last minute to say she isn't bringing the kids home when she said she would. She pays no child support which leaves him with no money but he doesn't want to "rock the boat". I am thinking if I move in and we put money together, I will end up being resentful that she doesn't pay child support.
Would it be stupid to think that everything is gonna be fun and all rosy if I move to be with him?
Plus, he is already very defensive about his kids. Like, He was telling me over the phone about his daughter and her mother getting into a fight and that he has to force her to go. I just said, "Well, maybe you shouldn't force her to go." He said, automatically before catching himself, "Well, she is my daughter and I will make the decisions on that." and he kept talking to try to play that off. I was like, "Well, ok. I am gonna go. I will talk to you later." We got off the phone and he immediately called me back and asked what is wrong. I just told him I would not make anymore comments about his kids. He said, "No, I don't care. I didn't mean it like that"
I am thinking, our relationship is fairly new and he is already making comments like that. What's gonna happen if we are living together?
Just nervous. Would like any advice.
P.S. My kids' dad would like to work things out. I don't know what to do. I know the kids would be better off and me too to stay with their dad, but i care about my bf too.