I need support - FamilyEducation
I need support
07/05/2008 at 18:35 PM

This may be a little long, but this is driving me nuts. I have been with my current husband for 5 yrs. He has 3 kids, and I have 2. We have none together. The kids ages are 18,17,16,13,12. The 18 and 17yo are girls, and the other 3 are boys. I'm not going to say anything bad about his x-wife, just that she has said for the last 6 years that her happiness comes before her kids. The original visitation agreement was that the kids were going to spend one week with us and one week with their mother. Well, from the beginning, the girls picked sides. And this was 6 yrs ago. If they got mad at mom, one or both would come and move in with us, and vice versa. This has been going on all this time. Well, about a year and a half ago, his oldest did live with us, then got mad and moved in with her mom. She got pregnant within 3 months and just had a baby in March. His other daughter lived with us until April. She got mad, and moved out, without even letting us know.  She and I do not have a good relationship, and often get angry with each other. She is the classic example of a user. She is only nice to you if you can do something for her, whether it's buying something for her, or doing something else she wants. Once you stop doing things for her, she has no use for you and begins making trouble. In June, their mother moved with her husband to Germany. Their mom and husband said the 2 girls could live in the house.  Within just a couple of weeks, things have fallen apart. The 17yo was supposed to only do a couple of things, she was to pay her part of the rent and bills, pay her car payment and insurance payment and help keep the house clean. She was also supposed to let her older sister know her work schedule and where she would be if needed. None of this has happened. She goes and does what she wants and does not care about anyone but herself. She did not pay her share of the rent or car payment, and all of a sudden, her mother and stepfather is now saying that if the 18yo does not cover it all, she has to move out. Her mother's family is harassing the 18yo, as well as her sister's boyfriends father harassing her as well. The police won't do anything because it is a civil manner. The 18yo has temporarily moved in with her boyfriend until we can get her moved in here with us. If anyone has any advice, good or bad, please let me know. Just a point, about the middle of May, my husband sat both of the girls down and told them that if they continue to play these games, the next time they leave, not to look back, because he has been hurt way too many times. Sorry this is so long, but this has been building for some time. Thanks.