My pa remarried and started a new family when I was 3. I have 1 full brother, 1 full sister, and 2 half sisters from my pa's 2nd marriage. Over the yrs. my brother and I stayed with our pa on and off while our sister always remained with our mother. I wound up staying with my pa the most.
It is now yrs. later and one of my step-sisters has invited my son, my daughter and myself to be a part of her wedding. Of course we agreed. Now I am regretting that decision. My other whole siblings are pissed that they and their children are being left out. I have learned that they always felt that my pa's 2nd family has favored me and my family more so than theirs over the years. They are very passionate about this resentment. I look back and yes I can see what they mean, I just never paid any attention to it.
I am almost 40 now, and all this is stressing me out terrible. Its both a sad situation and disheartening learning of this deep-seeded resentment from my whole siblings.
The wedding is not til Spring of 2010 and we have not been fitted for anything, and I am really thinking of breaking my half sisters heart by changing my mind to be in the wedding just to keep the piece with my other siblings. They are more hurt about their own kids not being acknowledged than anything. In case you need to know, my step-mother has been a Bridal manager for 25+ yrs. and so this wedding has to be perfect, she also wears the pants in the family. What the heck do I do? Please advise...